This week ends my Quaker BzzAgent try out. When I joined this campaign, I received a bag of Quaker Perfect Portions Oatmeal, a box of BIG chewy chocolate chip granola bars and a box of chocolate chip oatmeal cookies. First off, unfortunately, my bag of Perfect Portions was damaged in shipping. Sad! But it’s okay! The other two items made up for it. The BIG chewy granola bars are delicious, although, not QUITE as yummy as the regular sized ones, for some reason. But the cookies. Oh. My. Goodness, the cookies! I am not a fan of regular store cookies, like Chips Ahoy! etc, I prefer chewy cookies. The Quaker Chocolate Chip Oatmeal cookies were AWESOME! My kids liked them too, not even knowing that they had the healthy oatmeal in them! I also tried dunking them in milk, something I don’t usually do, and YUM! I am definitely a cookie convert!
I’ve only been a mom for 4 years and 5 months, but in that time, I’ve really learned something — no one ever wins mommy wars. They only lead to heartache and more feelings of inadequacy. I don’t know about you, but I do a fantastic job on my own of making myself feel like a crappy mother, so I make a point not to make others feel that way.
Just try to remember, we were all new at this once. We all need to make our own mistakes. I still nurse my 4 year old once or twice a day, but does that mean I think everyone should? Of course not!
Instead of making each other feel like we aren’t measuring up, how about trying to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes. So you don’t think kids should ever be in a stroller? Fine. So you think Happy Meals are the work of the devil? Wonderful. Things are different in our family.
Disagreement doesn’t mean that any one way is worse or better. One thing that always annoys me is that if I happen to mention the way I do something, please don’t take it as an attack on the way YOU do something. The fact that I feel good about my decision does not mean you should feel any less about your decisions.
Stop diminishing and start empowering! We are mothers. We are ALL mothers. We all have obstacles and setbacks that we deal with every day, but as long as someone’s children are clothed, fed and loved, what difference does it make?
Yesterday I downloaded easy.homemade. Homemade pantry staples for the busy modern family by Mandi Ehman. I’m so glad I did! This is a great resource for those of us who never really learned to cook, and even those who know how to cook but would like to cut out the preservatives and additives of store bought pantry items. Personally, I am unable to eat MSG, a common additive in canned and boxed items, so this is exactly something I need. So many recipes out there are involved and full of steps and gourmet ingredients that I neither have nor desire to buy. This book is a simple, straightforward reference guide to making your own pantry staples without tons of extra time. Totally recommended. Get yourself a copy before August 21, 2012 for only $.99!
Well hello there! My name is Mommy A! Actually, my name is Artie, but who really cares, right? I have 2 little kiddos, born in 2008 – he will be known as Chubber and born in 2011 – she will be known as Miss Piggy! My children are my world, as are the children of almost all moms, but I’m not the kind of mom I thought I would be. I thought I was meant to be a mom. At age 6, if someone asked what I wanted to be when I grew up, my answer was, “A mommy!”. However, life throws you curve balls and sometimes you just don’t end up where you thought you would.
When I was pregnant with Chubber, we moved into my moms house. As much as I love my mom, it wasn’t fun living in the basement where I didn’t even have a locked door for privacy. It was nice to have someone around all the time though, which kept me from being overwhelmed with a new baby, suddenly thrown from my beautiful 1200 sq foot apartment back into mommy’s house with my husband. It was even harder on my husband, who has a personality that clashes with my mother’s. But we survived, and so did my mom, dad and little sister – for 18 months, when we bought our first house. We moved in quickly because I was in desperate need of my own space and my mom was in need of her house back. Then 1 month later, our world was thrown into chaos — my husband, the breadwinner, lost his job. It was a disastrous mess that left us on public health insurance and using credit cards just to eat. But we survived that too. I had gotten a new job during this time, making better money than before, and now my husband had an acceptable job where we could breathe a bit. Then, four months later, surprise! Miss Piggy was on her way. After a non-fun pregnancy, 2 months after I went back to work from maternity leave, I found myself without a job. So here I am. Searching every day for jobs, waiting for unemployment to run out, and getting absolutely no response from my countless job applications despite my Bachelor’s degree.
So there’s my story. I am going to be a stay at home mom, whether I am good at it or not, so I better get good at it. Instead of spending all my time wondering why no one wants to hire me, its time to focus on the job that I made for myself — mom and wife.